If you have children with a former spouse or partner, you have likely heard the term "best interests of the child.*" The criteria set forth under this statute gives the Court guidelines for creating the most stable, safe and positive atmosphere for any given child to thrive.
We frequently get questions and comments from parents with special needs children, such as:
How can mediation help?
Where do we start?
It is critical that parents understand that any parenting plan approved by the Court can and should be amended when the child or parent's circumstances change, or as the child grows out of the plan in place.
At South Denver Conflict Solutions, we love supporting families and children through the changes of life, and we can mediate during nights or weekends so you don't have to miss work or other obligations. Call us to set up a complimentary telephone consultation.
*Best Interests of the Child, C.R.S. 14-10-123.4
So often we talk about all the reasons mediation is more beneficial than litigation, especially when children are involved. What is rarely mentioned is that mediation can also be mentally anguishing, exhausting and stressful. So, is it worth it? Shouldn't you just litigate? Let me share why you should consider sticking with mediation...
You, and only you, know what outcome you are willing to accept.
When attorneys are involved, there is a lot of back and forth, posturing and ineffective use of time and expense. Having a face-to-face conversation with the person you are in conflict with will allow you both to see where agreements can be made, instead of relying on the feedback from a third party. Less dollars out of your wallet and more mutual resolutions. It's a win-win.
*Arrangements can be made to accommodate couples with protection orders. Even in separate rooms, shuttle mediation can be far faster and more effective than litigation.
Children and relationships come out on top.
Children of divorcing or separating couples fare better when their parents communicate in mediation about the children's best interests. Litigation puts all the power and control in the Judge's hands, instead of with the parents who know the kids best. Judges are looking to reduce their case load and may not have the time or show the interest to really hear what is best for the kids. Put the kids first. They will benefit the most, and your relationship with your ex stands a chance. Mediation doesn't just resolve today's conflicts. It teaches parties how to communicate in the future too!
Avoiding Court means you can move on more quickly.
How many times will you have to miss work to appear in Court? When you get there, do you greet your ex, or do you sit on your side and use your attorney as a buffer? In the courtroom, how long are you waiting for your case to be called? Does your attorney sometimes show more aggression or indifference to something you think could have been worked out? How often does opposing counsel ask to continue the case without any progress that day? Did you miss work for this?! What a waste of time.
If you are looking for an efficient and successful way to move on, mediation can resolve all lingering issues in sessions that accommodate your schedule and focus on what the parties think are the most pressing issues.
At South Denver Conflict Solutions, we can mediate during nights or weekends so you don't have to miss work or other obligations. Call us to set up a complimentary telephone consultation.
A large part of our population is affected by or knows of someone with a drug or alcohol addiction. While the disease of addiction continues to be taboo, it is a secret that more and more people live with every day.
On one end of the spectrum are the high functioning addicts who can continue to go to work, drive their kids around town and show up to family holidays. On the other end of the spectrum are the addicts who have lost their job, their home and their support network. No one on this spectrum of addiction is in control of their disease. Control over the addiction only happens once recovery and abstinence are in place. Even then, it is a life long battle.
Addiction mediation, a new and emerging tool for addicts, is available to open lines of communication between addicts and their families. In this facilitated, non-judgmental and non-confrontational conversation, families can problem solve for emergency temporary situations, or for longer term solutions.
Mediation does not fix addiction. Addiction is a disease for life; one that families and addicts must learn to navigate in a productive way. Mediation gives families and addicts the tools to learn how to communicate more effectively and convey their feelings and needs in way where they can be heard.
In the inevitable cycle of addiction, learning the proper tools for problem solving will help families in all stages of this cycle. The goal is to give you tools to address future conflict without having to return to mediation.
If you or a loved one is affected by the disease of addiction, please reach out us at South Denver Conflict Solutions. Let us help you learn the tools to a more successful family dynamic.
You and your spouse have decided to divorce. You are filled with a multitude of emotions ranging from sadness, fear, anger and possibly even relief. In this next phase, you must solidify the terms of the divorce in the eyes of the State. Here are some options:
1) Hire a lawyer, increase the animosity, head to divorce court, and let the Courts decide your future; or
2) Hire a mediator, reduce the aggression, and keep the decision making power in your hands as a couple.
There may be children to consider, assets to divide, and maintenance to be determined. All of these issues can be address in mediation, allowing for more creative problem solving which tends to leave parties feeling more satisfied with the outcome.
What is your child's health and happiness worth to you?
Mediation takes work and committment on the part of each party, but can result in a much for successful outcome for both parties.
Call South Denver Conflict Solutions today to see how mediation can help you.